Ok everyone has been told who needs to know so it??s time I told the world about the secret I have been reluctant to post.
Wednesday 2 weeks ago, I got the following email (edited for my own security ?? )
Thought I would let you know that you have a son, i know it’s a bit of a
shock but I would of let you know sooner, but i only found out the day he
was born, a concealed pregnancy the midwives say.
I do not want anything from you, i just think that you have a right to know,
He is called ********* and is a healthy baby, he was born on the
This came from a girl I haven??t seen since about March and wasn??t at all intending anything like this to happen.
So for the last 2 weeks my head has been spinning somewhat and my perspective on life has seriously taken a 90?X shift.
On the Wednesday I just went home and cried for a good hour, then I got up the nerve to phone my brother and pull him out of rehearsals. First he thought I was going to tell him someone was dead, then he actually seemed happy which took me by surprise. We had one of the longest chats we??ve had for a while, after which he said to make sure I phone him regularly to make sure everything??s ok. Then Larry took me out to get well and truly pissed at the local pub, which I realise now is one of the only things that made sense that night!
Slowly things have started to die down, and I don??t go into an absolute panic every time I think about the subject. If anything the past 2 weeks have taught me how many great friends I have with everyone offering their support and guidance (although not much guidance).
Unfortunately this is one of the few situations I have faced that people can??t give me advice on. It??s seriously difficult to know what moves to make, what steps to take, and what my options are, just cos there is no advice available.
But anyway I have met up with the mother, and now I??m trying to work out what to do next?K
Got to sort out a paternity test?K
Got to work out how to be a dad from a distance (I don??t want anything to do with the mother :S )
Just a couple of things floating round in my head on a minute by minute basis.
Thanks to all my friends for their support.